Sexuality is a sensitive aspect of many people’s lives and can be a difficult space to surrender to God. It may be due to various reasons -shame, hurt, abuse, betrayal or even mental models. My focus today is on “mental models”. Mental models are thought processes, reasonings and perceptions that can affect a person’s behavior. These models may have been formed from the person’s upbringing, society, people or experiences. Unfortunately, if the thoughts and perceptions aren’t consistent with God’s word, they will be a limiting factor from seeing God’s perspective. Romans12:2 (AMP) states;
“ Do not be conformed to this world (this age), [fashioned after and adapted to its external, superficial customs], but be transformed (changed) by the [entire] renewal of your mind [by its new ideals and its new attitude], so that you may prove [for yourselves] what is the good and acceptable and perfect will of God, even the thing which is good and acceptable and perfect [in His sight for you].”
James 1:17 (KJV) states that “Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning.”
God is a good father and wants to guide you in your sexuality. He wants to lift you out of any deep place of shame and bring wholeness to your life. However, it’s necessary for a renewing of your mind to take place in order to prove true his good, perfect will for your life.
As believers, our mental models about sexuality are to be consistent with the scriptures say. Our faith should be evident in the way we express our sexuality because God designed our bodies for his glory. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 (MSG) says: “Or didn’t you realize that your body is a sacred place, the place of the Holy Spirit? Don’t you see that you can’t live however you please, squandering what God paid such a high price for? The physical part of you is not some piece of property belonging to the spiritual part of you. God owns the whole works. So let people see God in and through your body.”
This surrender would first start from within and not without. We will need to surrender our hearts to the one who created sexuality in the first place. Then, we would be able to see the beauty of his design and walk accordingly.
Do you feel God Is pulling you in deeper understanding about his design in the way you express your sexuality?Are you willing to trust him and let him lead you? Remember, God is not condemning you if you have questions or are struggling in this area. Pause. Let’s take a moment and say this short prayer: Father God, my heart is open to you to guide me in my sexuality, heal every wound or pain that may have been caused in past/present, from now on I surrender My mind to the guidance of your Spirit. Amen
On the other side of surrender with God is always something better than what we could have ever dreamed of. In my next post, we’ll look at practical steps in renewing our minds in the area of sexuality. Stay tuned ✨